Thanks so much all for your great advice on these outfits!
1) talbots coat now sleeps with the fishes. Well, not really, but you know what I mean.
2) Nicole Miller dress is on life support - likely will go to the great Charity box in the sky
3) J Crew griege suit was in a bag, ready to go, but Knityarns made a suggestion about combining it my madewell scarf or perhaps a rose top underneath.
Well, it wasn't the Madewell scarf that did it in the end (it looked nice, but not amazing with the greige), but another beautiful wool scarf I own:
Teamed with the Naomi top in mint and my mint, rose and lavender leopard print scarf and my valentinas in leopard print, it looks awesome, as it does with the raspberry top below:
With these colours, the suit blends away and you focus on the colour.
Suit will live a little longer I believe....
thank you all so much!