Sunday, June 21, 2015

Fathers




“I believe that what we become depends on what our fathers teach us at odd moments, when they aren't trying to teach us. We are formed by little scraps of wisdom.”
― Umberto Eco

Some of us are missing our dads today, either because they are no longer with us or they are far away.

Others of us are fortunate to be able to spend this day with our fathers and celebrate them for all they have done for us: hugs given, endless drives her and there, pearls of wisdom, kindness, humour, the wallet that never seemed to dry up. 

There is the young dad, the middle aged dad, the old dad.  All are needed if we are to become fully ourselves.

My father was a shy man. He never danced with me at my wedding because he would have been terrified to get up and dance in front of people. That was okay. He got me down the aisle, and before and after then, he got me through life.

In the end, I married someone a lot like my dad - kind, sentimental, handy, but I may have upgraded slightly to a dancer. 

Either way, I am grateful for the dad I have and the dad my children have.

I hope you have a lovely Father's Day!





xoxo wendy

24 comments:

  1. Wendy, As always you have crafted a lovely tribute. Happy Father's Day Barry!

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  2. Hi Wendy, my dad died when I was very young, but I was lucky to marry a man who is a great dad. He is in his element today - building a deck!

    Hope Barry has a great Fathers' Day!

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    1. Oh he and Barry would get along - Barry was re-roofing the gazebo!

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  3. Happy Father's Day to the lovely Barry! I thought about my Dad today and remembered him for his completely inarticulate but profound love and support.

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    1. I think it was a generational thing, eh? Probably an introvert thing on my dad's part...

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  4. So sweet. I am so fortunate to spend the morning with my father in law, the day with my kids dad, and the evening with my own dad. Everytime you write about your father, the love jumps right off the page. Hope you had a wonderful day with Barry and the kids.

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    1. thanks! I bet you had a blast - you guys are so much fun!

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  5. Hi Wendy, Lovely post and beautiful tribute!

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  6. Nicely written Wendy. Hope Barry had a great Fathers Day Xox

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  7. What a warm and heartfelt post, Wendy, thank you for it. My father died fifteen years ago at the grand age of ninety-one but I still miss him greatly and accept that I always shall. (Congratulations to Barry, he married a warm and wise woman.)

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    1. I am with you! My mom's been gone for about the same amount of time and I find you get used to it, you just don't get over it...

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  8. Beautiful post! I hope Barry had a wonderful Father's Day!!

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    1. thanks Louise! Hope you husband did as well!

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  9. Wendy I loved this! Very sweet. Your dad and husband both sound like wonderful guys!

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  10. You have such a way with words. Beautiful!

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  11. What a wonderful post. The quote you included is so true!

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