Monday, February 17, 2014

Monday, in which Wendy is of Churlish Deportment

My master is of churlish disposition,
And little recks to find the way to heaven
By doing deeds of hospitality.

Bill "I never lose my cool" Shakespeare


Yesterday, I was, well, NOT in a good mood.  If I was an adjective I would have been CHURLISH.

My mother used to say that on those days one isn't fit for human consumption.

But the sad reality of course is that even when we are in these moods we are still confronted with our friends and family, at least to a certain extent. 

I am usually a positive person, but I have my moments.  I try not to dwell on them too much, not only for my own sake, but for the sake of friends and family. 

And of course if you read blogs and Facebook you would think that the entire world is having, to quote my lovely Disney benefactor, "a Zippideedooda Day".  Yes, he really did say that....

Well they're not.

Yesterday I was kind of stomping everywhere, at least in my head.  It could have been our umpteenth snow storm.  It could have been that the first outfit I put on was hideous.

It made me rail at myself, since wasn't I the person who'd just written a lovely post on abundance?

But sometimes we don't practice what we preach. 

Sometimes we are jealous of our friend's accomplishments even as we celebrate them. 

Sometimes we look in the mirror and only notice the crow's feet and think "how the hell did that part of my face start to droop so much?" 

Sometimes, we eat too many chocolates and curse our self-control. 

Sometimes we are snappish and snippy and woebegone for no apparent reason.

Sometimes we judge people who we have no business judging.  Sometimes we judge ourselves.

Sometimes, we are just a bitch. 

And then we flog ourselves and when I saw this morning that I lost a blog follower my first thought was "well OF COURSE I lost a blog follower!" because well, I am such a terrible person and all.

Of course I may be the only person in the history of the universe who ever feels that way.... :-)

Or maybe, we are just suffering from what my friend Brian has coined Foreveruary. 

If the latter is the case, then here are some images that I am passing along in the hopes that if there is anyone else out there today feeling slightly grumpy or chubby or under-appreciated or over-worked or whatever, these will help you, too!  All pictures are from my pinterest Awww! category, which I've collected just for days like this...


5 Puppies in emotional mood

Squee Spree Winner: Mouse



fabulousplaces:

35/52 Storytime by meg price on Flickr.



Ohmmmmmmmm.... funny image





There, now I feel better!

Anyone else have the February blues? Feeling Melon Collie?  Struggling with the snow, heat, whatever?

I am working hard on finding that abundant feeling this morning....

And I feel much better, truly, having told you about it.  Because sometimes we need our friends to lighten our load and well, I like to be true to you all....

Stay safe (and happy!) out there!

Happiness is surely the best teacher of good manners: only the unhappy are churlish in deportment.  - Christopher Morley

Suck it Christopher....






 

59 comments:

  1. Thank you for honest sharing! This month has taken its toll and we all get fed up with life from time to time. Plus, the writing life is as angst-provoking as it gets: lots of alone time, rejection, self-doubt, and a whole lot of terrible books selling well for some bizarre reason. It's perfectly ok to have off days/weeks/years. Your positive, sparkling personality comes through for your readers. And it will be spring soon!

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    1. Thanks Jen! I feel like that old line "I really shouldn't complain but..."

      The good thing is that we all go through this (some of us more regularly than others!)

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  2. With this line "I am usually a positive person, but I have my moments...I try not to dwell on them too much, not only for my own sake, but for the sake of friends and family," I have officially declared you my soul sister. HUGS! I know *exactly* what you mean.

    And even though right now I am not having a churlish day/week, the next time I do I am coming right here to this post and taking a long look at that mouse in the berries. Oh, how stinking cute. LOL.

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    1. Oh the mouse in the berries is so sweet, though he is having to put up with the pricklies to get to the sweet fruit (can you tell I hate picking blackberries? Always prick myself! Oh damn - still churlish!)

      Thanks soul sister! We all need to be able to let off steam now and then and I always think it is worth it to write if it helps even one person!

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  3. Wendy, you have to take some pleasure in knowing you make me smile every morning when I read your blogs! Hugs Ger

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    1. Thanks Ger! See I am already feeling in a better mood!

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  4. A very timely post. I am a bit (totally) grumpy about the need for a vacay somewhere warm. Unfortunately it looks like a spring break trip is not going to happen this year as we are shorthanded at work. I'm trying to be positive as I see others having fun in the sun but it is really hard. This has been the worst winter in years and if ever it was a time for the tropics it is now. I'll still like you though so keep those posts coming. Hopefully your Popsicle stick pop will enjoy space mountain!

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    1. Oh and maybe that mouse is eating my parent's blackberries in the summer not the birds!

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    2. SC - that is too funny about the mouse! You are so right on the need for a winter break and even though I shouldn't complain as we've not gone somewhere warm for years, it seems I still am! The one happy thing is that I am having coffee with one of my best friends this afternoon and that will cheer me up!

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  5. Oh the melon collie brought a smile to my early morning bitchy resting face.

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    1. Bitchy resting face--the bane of my existence. Really, such a problem for me. One of these days I am going to cave and get Botox to deal with my frowny face!

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  6. Ok I am going to get hokey pokey bc the downtimes I blame it on the moon and stars. It was the hangover of the full moon and it is still mercury retrograde so do not worry Wendy!! I had absolutely no energy this weekend - the weather was so amazing yesterday and even the puppy couldn't make me go to the park. I just moped being overwhelmed by unpacked boxes and builders asking silly questions and I oddly cheered up watching 3 seasons of Damages which ironically made me wipe out any regret of not having continued being a lawyer. PS I lose readers all the time and the reason is always - not relevant which makes me laugh because I think when was I relevant anyway? ;)

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    1. Naomi - you HAVE to do my horoscope! Then I would know when to hide under the blanket instead of rearing my ugly face!!!!

      I love your blog so much so I cannot imagine you being irrelavent! On the other hand, I do talk a lot less about clothing and style, so I am not surprised if people get bored by the stuff and nonsense that comes in my house. Just thinking of your place reminds me that I could be even bitchier! I don't know how you do it!

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    2. Yes I gotta try and do one for you Wendy! But isn't it weird how so many people had a day in the dumps this past weekend?? Funny enough I just read - amidprivilege - do you read her? I just started and you should read her because she schedules her blogposts and varies it according to subject - mind you she has been doing this a while and seems very organised but I learned something that I never considered before so I think you might like to go and have a read.

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  7. "Suck it, Christopher" lol! I love your parting words. I am relieved to know that even you have churlish days. I am 1000% certain that Disney is going to clear it up, though (if it isn't better before that). Hang in there!!

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    1. Thanks Cate! And you know, that Suck it, Christopher felt good!

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    2. Christopher does have a most irritating self-satisfied look about him!

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  8. This is very weird as I was a Gloomy Gus myself yesterday! We all have those days don't we. I feel so much better this morning and now that I've read this and viewed these images I feel that much better again!
    My Old Rascal came home last night and he's staying for most of reading week, we were supposed to be in Florida yesterday but look what we would have missed had we gone... time with that boy of ours.
    And yes it IS Foreveruary and I'm convinced the longest winter ever that won't end ever. Time to bake cookies!
    Thanks for this post Wenders you're the best.

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    1. Thanks Dani - I know you will have so much fun with Old Rascal! Of course, he already had his time in the sun!

      The sun is shining her today, but it is bitterly cold. On the other hand, it is only 9 days till we leave....

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  9. Hi Wendy, re. the lost follower - it's probably nothing personal, probably just someone who needs to cut down on blog-reading, for whatever reason!

    I didn't comment on yesterday's post, but how wonderful that you got that sweet deal at Disney - you probably made the guy's day with your happy chat!

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    1. Actually I lost one yesterday too. I think it was likely the same person. More than likely it is someone who is cutting down on blog reading...or *possibly* switching to another blog reading format, like blogloving or feedly. Definitely don't take it personally. I cared once upon a time about losing readers, but now I give zero thoughts to it. The comments on my blog show me folks are reading, and that is plenty of reassurance for me. :)

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    2. Hi Patricia and Dina - I know, that is it absolutely and I have lost them before and I have left blogs in the last few months myself. I normally don't take it personally except in the current churlish state!!!

      And BTW - I agree completely - if one person shows up I am always thrilled!

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    3. Remember that people like me read your blogs but don't "Follow"! (I just bookmark what I like to read). I'm sure you have many more readers than it appears :)

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    4. Cate, I do the same! Then I hop about from blog to blog. Are we messing up something for our blogger friends? I don't want any email alerts for anything. Is that crabby??

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    5. No, no! No need to follow! It was just an example of my extreme churlishness this am!, I know lots of people read as I see the stats now then. Don't want anyone to feel pressure! The follower thing is no biggie. Good thing is I am no longer churlish but perhaps chagrined with self! :-)

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    6. They come, they go, they even come back. Not as if you can take attendance and sent out the truant officer. And I read such a variety of blogs and newspaper columns disguised as blogs, many of them seem to require a lot of personal info if you want to follow, which is not for me.

      So, there's an old Eastern European expression that goes "it's not enough that I should prosper, my friends should be miserable." Or words to that effect.

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    7. That's "send." Maybe I lose followers because they've lost patience with my struggles with the autocorrect feature on ipad.

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    8. Oh my God, Fred - I love it!!!!! in some past life I am in a revival of Fiddler on the Roof and speaking Yiddish...

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  10. Thanks for fessing up. I do indulge once in awhile in good old-fashioned irrational behavior that involves pouting, dramatic tragic looks and claims of being misunderstood. Luckily those moments are short and getting to be less frequent. Otherwise, I will find myself thrown out of the house.

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    1. I HEAR YOU! Although I think you are a pretty content woman - you are happy if he just takes out the garbage!

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  11. Sometimes it's just hormones ... or at least that's what I've been telling myself A LOT lately.

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  12. Some days you just wake up pissy...I do. i do believe the weather plays a HUGE role.But, today is a brand new day baby!

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    1. I hear you! Waiting on a good Hunter story!

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    2. Headed to New Orleans this week end. Maybe he'll take his top off for beads! Right now he is just so excited because he gets to go to Central Grocery for a Muffuletta.

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    3. Oh BB I am happy for my blog mate but miserable at the same time iykwim, over the legit muffaletta, Central has best olive mix. Have a lovely, messy time this weekend you two.

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  13. Dear Wendy - you are entitled to have a bad day - everyone has them. You are allowed to be a bitch from time to time - I say that as validation for all of the times I am a bitch (at least once a month for a couple of days-grrr). The best you can do is accept, acknowledge, apologize or explain as necessary and move forward.
    Now that you've had a lousy day - you've gotten it out of the way and hopefully today, tomorrow and the day after will be better.

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    1. Julie - I don't have that excuse anymore! Oh lord - is this what the 50s will be like????? ;-)

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  14. Wendy, thanks for the post and the huge laugh you gave me at the end with your comment to Christopher Morley.
    I was also extra gloomy this weekend, possibly made worse by listening to Leonard Cohen. (Love him, but he can be a little...dark--maybe not the best choice for February.)
    And--you may have lost a blog follower, but there are many lurkers like me who follow you daily.

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    1. Aw thanks Kestral! Leonard can have that effect on people - just ask Mary Mesheau!

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  16. WMM everybody has an is entitled to Jonah days. You just make me smile at doing a 180 from abundance to the dumps. Here's to:
    - Pressing the champagne button
    - Sharing the occasional heartfelt "suck it!"
    - The blackberries among the thorns
    - The better outfit that always follows the hopeless one
    - Friends, family, bloggy mates, four-legged friends (in funny poses), followers and lurkers
    - Bud sticking out at Disney - you must have an extra free [insert food of choice] there for him given your surprise gift
    - March breaking up Forevuary
    As my kingdergarten teacher, Ms. Playfair (no joke) used to say right after a midafternoon class meltdown, "a smile is just a frown that's made a big turnaround."
    Hang in there. And know that we are grimacing and grinning right along with ya.

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    1. ha! Mrs. Playfair! that's like Barry's old police partner, Danny Copp, or my mother's old ophthalmologist, Dr. Seymour! Heehee!!! See I'm laughing! Plus, I dressed like a biker chick today!

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    2. BIKER BABE Channeling your inner Harry/ Benatar great way to banish churlish. Did you know that Brigitte Bardot and Liz Taylor both rode Harleys?

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  17. Wendy- not churlish- simply human. YOu may have lost a blog follower- probably a technical problem, but I am sure you have many more readers than you can count. Did you see the silly link I posted under your V day post last night. OMG- that should certainly cheer you up!

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  18. I'm sort of relieved when people blog about the bad, churlish and self-pitying days! We all have them (surely?) and it is a great relief to read that others have them too!
    I had an explosion of rage at my family last night - very out of character for me. Who knows why, but I often blame it on my hormones and pain levels!

    Thanks for your honesty, Wendy x

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  19. I am asked sometimes by my darling MLane if my patch is due (estrogen)--ha! The correlation is amazing. This cloud will pass, embrace the negative with the positive and it will lose some power. I do agree with BB the weather is driving many mad!

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  20. I had a day like that last week for NO apparent reason. I hated myself, the world, the sunshine, every person I came into contact with. I wasn't good enough at or for anything :( I finally dragged my sorry butt to the bar of our hotel and tried to drown my misery in stale peanuts and lousy wine while hubs was in meetings. Didn't help so I hauled my salted self upstairs and made myself go to bed with no supper:-). I lost so many followers last month I've wondered if I should even bother. I did excommunicate myself from a fashion blogger group yesterday, because...I don't blog on fashion. So I guess they lost a follower too.

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    1. well you are making me feel better!

      My blog has changed do much in the last couple of years that I do worry that I have drug people hither and yon so I can relate!!!! I love your blog! Maybe we just blog for each other!

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  21. I love that word, churlish! And you are certainly one of he most positive and upbeat person I have ever met. This churlish day was just a blip!

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  22. This was a timely post for me to read. I was so down about everything today -- and for no good reason except I am fed up with February and winter. Love your blog, and I enjoying reading it so much. Hopefully things will begin to look better for all of us, since it seems to be going around. Christopher does need to suck it.

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  23. I don't know who the hell he is, but he is a very bad man.... ;-)

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