Hi All!
I am testing various blog template looks right now, so don't be surprised if we run through a few before I get done. I have enlisted Miss Get Fresh in this Great Campaign of 2013, but she had nothing to do with today's look, so if you don't like it, blame me! When it starts looking really good, it will be because of her!
So first things first. You recall my pinterest post of yesterday? if you do not, never fear, you didn't really miss anything..But you should know that I was talking about using pinterest to help me hone in on my style. I threatened to recreate a particularly colourful outfit that I loved and gosh darn if I didn't go and do it!
The original:
The Wendy version. Yippee! I am actually shopping my closet! It is all old (even my undies I think!):
Now really, how many of you would have the parts of this outfit in your closet already? Some of you are off to go make a garlic necklace to ward off the gaudy colour vampire. Never mind, I have good self-esteem!
Where did I go in this outfit? Well to get the dog his summer clipping. I am going on record right now in saying that I am certain that I was the most colourful customer of the day!
To be comfy and to wear them, the 2008 Normandy espadrilles:
There is no purpose for the next picture except that it is a nice one of me and I always feel I need to share those as I post so many bad ones!
There, the ego god is done and actually humbled as I can see my toilet - it definitely looks like I need a new roll of toilet paper and now that this is enlarged it looks like I am looking off into the distance in some kind of trance-like state. Let's just let this go, shall we?
The subject i really wanted to talk about today is reconnecting. Many of you will know that for the last several years, I was working almost constantly. When I wasn't working I was taking care of my children. That left no time for me and no time for friends. I think I saw my best friend 12 times last year, maybe less.
As I transition into this new life, I have to remind myself to pick up the phone and make plans. Days will still go by when I realized that apart from my husband, my children and you all (all of whom are very important!) I am not connecting outside of the home. It is also difficult as I am the only 50 year old non-worker I know around here right now. I do have a couple of friends who have retired and one who is about to, but I see that I have almost completely gotten out of the habit of being social for play reasons.
I can't be the only one in this boat. For some of us, this isolation begins when we have young children - we are so busy and it is hard to balance it all. When we do socialize we tend to look for people with kids the age of ours so that we can bring them along because a) we can't find a babysitter b) we can't afford a babysitter c) we are trying to socialize the little mites!
Then you seem to outgrow those friends a bit once your children decide they don't want to play with THOSE children anymore. And then you can go out again because your oldest is now able to babysit your youngest, but then they get their drivers licenses and sometimes you all flip a coin as to who really needs the car the most and it doesn't matter by then because you are working all the time as you have been promoted and you are too tired to go out anyway. Phew!
So I am now in the process of reminding myself to reconnect with my friends and hopefully will begin to make new friends along the way as well, since I will have more time to nurture those friendships. But it doesn't seem as easy at age 50 as it was at age 30 and I find I am also picky. I don't want friendships to be work; I want them to be about having fun and enjoying myself and them.
So how about you - are your friendships in transition? Are you rekindling old friendships or making new ones?
I am testing various blog template looks right now, so don't be surprised if we run through a few before I get done. I have enlisted Miss Get Fresh in this Great Campaign of 2013, but she had nothing to do with today's look, so if you don't like it, blame me! When it starts looking really good, it will be because of her!
So first things first. You recall my pinterest post of yesterday? if you do not, never fear, you didn't really miss anything..But you should know that I was talking about using pinterest to help me hone in on my style. I threatened to recreate a particularly colourful outfit that I loved and gosh darn if I didn't go and do it!
The original:
The Wendy version. Yippee! I am actually shopping my closet! It is all old (even my undies I think!):
Now really, how many of you would have the parts of this outfit in your closet already? Some of you are off to go make a garlic necklace to ward off the gaudy colour vampire. Never mind, I have good self-esteem!
Where did I go in this outfit? Well to get the dog his summer clipping. I am going on record right now in saying that I am certain that I was the most colourful customer of the day!
To be comfy and to wear them, the 2008 Normandy espadrilles:
There is no purpose for the next picture except that it is a nice one of me and I always feel I need to share those as I post so many bad ones!
There, the ego god is done and actually humbled as I can see my toilet - it definitely looks like I need a new roll of toilet paper and now that this is enlarged it looks like I am looking off into the distance in some kind of trance-like state. Let's just let this go, shall we?
The subject i really wanted to talk about today is reconnecting. Many of you will know that for the last several years, I was working almost constantly. When I wasn't working I was taking care of my children. That left no time for me and no time for friends. I think I saw my best friend 12 times last year, maybe less.
As I transition into this new life, I have to remind myself to pick up the phone and make plans. Days will still go by when I realized that apart from my husband, my children and you all (all of whom are very important!) I am not connecting outside of the home. It is also difficult as I am the only 50 year old non-worker I know around here right now. I do have a couple of friends who have retired and one who is about to, but I see that I have almost completely gotten out of the habit of being social for play reasons.
I can't be the only one in this boat. For some of us, this isolation begins when we have young children - we are so busy and it is hard to balance it all. When we do socialize we tend to look for people with kids the age of ours so that we can bring them along because a) we can't find a babysitter b) we can't afford a babysitter c) we are trying to socialize the little mites!
Then you seem to outgrow those friends a bit once your children decide they don't want to play with THOSE children anymore. And then you can go out again because your oldest is now able to babysit your youngest, but then they get their drivers licenses and sometimes you all flip a coin as to who really needs the car the most and it doesn't matter by then because you are working all the time as you have been promoted and you are too tired to go out anyway. Phew!
So I am now in the process of reminding myself to reconnect with my friends and hopefully will begin to make new friends along the way as well, since I will have more time to nurture those friendships. But it doesn't seem as easy at age 50 as it was at age 30 and I find I am also picky. I don't want friendships to be work; I want them to be about having fun and enjoying myself and them.
So how about you - are your friendships in transition? Are you rekindling old friendships or making new ones?
Would love your thoughts on this issue of evolving friendships as we age! And as always: stay safe out there!
